haley. part 2.


Hey JOY family,

I knew you were wonderful. But this last week, you proved it once again! THANK YOU for all of your sweet notes and words of encouragement to Haley this past week. I kid you not….Haley and I have read EVERY. SINGLE. COMMENT. Many of you have emailed me, as well, and I’ve read all of them. As a mom, thank you for showing so much encouragement to my daughter. I just can’t even believe how many of you care. Goodness, I love you so much. I really, really do.

This has become mine & Haley’s new motto:

Discipline is trading what you want now for what you want MOST.

With God’s help, we both hope to live more disciplined. And to crave Him more than anything else.

Haley sent me a blog post last Wednesday, but as you can see, I’m just now posting. Sorry!


From Haley:

I am sitting in my bed reading through your comments and am completely overwhelmed by the stories, prayers and words of encouragement that has been poured over me the last week. I am truly in awe of the amount of support you all have given me and can barely read through my tears! I have never felt so loved.

Sitting at the table last Sunday night watching my mom publish my blog post was one of the scariest experiences of my life. It is never comfortable to put yourself out in such an open forum but I’ve been living in my comfort zone for way too long. Something I’ve come to learn about myself over the last year is that I have both an extreme fear of failure and an extreme fear of success. I put so much pressure on myself to be perfect while also telling myself that I’m not good enough to actually succeed. So I choose to take the safe, familiar route. I stay comfortable with where I am and tell myself that it’s good enough. However, God doesn’t want us to be comfortable. He wants us to be genuine and vulnerable and that’s where I am right now. I want to draw closer to Him and to do that I have to let go of the biggest chain that has been weighing me down. Literally! This realization is what led me to be so open with you all. I truly appreciate every kind word you have written and can feel the love you all are giving me.

I am a little over a week into my journey and I’m already down six pounds. My roommate’s dad is a doctor and he has me on a very clean diet.

For those of you that have completed your journey, congratulations! I am so happy for you and I can’t wait to be there with you! I know the journey never really ends, but you are all much healthier physically, emotionally and spiritually. Keep praying for all of us who aren’t quite there yet.

For everyone that is on this journey with me, we can do this! Everyday I wake up and turn my addiction over to God. I am learning to crave Him more and food less. I will keep each of you in my prayers and I hope you all will be praying for me and each other. This is not a battle that is easily won, but I believe that we can win it.

Jesus looked at them intently and said, “Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But with God everything is possible.” Matthew 19:26

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17 Responses to “haley. part 2.”

  1. Laura Slaback August 25, 2013 at 8:15 pm #

    Hi Carmen and Haley,
    All I can say is WOW! You both have inspired me. I still have 50 more to lose to get to my goal. You are going in the right direction because the bottom line is exactly what you have stated “Crave More of Jesus”! I am 49 and still trying to work this out. Haley you are way ahead of me and I cant wait for you to share more of your journey. Carmen, it is crazy but when I heard the little piece you did on the radio starting with the Hope song from King and Country…well lets just say the tears started rolling. For so many reasons. The song. That song has ministered to me over and over the last couple of months. The words you said. Ahhh so true but I really don’t want to hear them right now. But now everytime I hear that song…I think of your words. It has changed that song for me in a good way. It is so crazy! Carmen, my dear friend, you are a treasure. I must get serious about training for our next race and I must get serious about meeting my goal. Carmen and Haley you have inspired me! Not just to meet my goal but to reach out to the author of our Hope, our only hope…the one we must crave the most! Love you both so much!!!! Laura

  2. Laura Slaback August 25, 2013 at 8:20 pm #

    BTW, I just came here today because I have wanted to send you both a message all week. What a surprise to see the 2nd note! Timing is amazing ♥

  3. Debbie Keiper August 25, 2013 at 8:25 pm #

    Congratulations Haley. What an awesome beginning. You are definitely on your way. Step by step and inch by inch (literally):) I am so happy for you. Just remember to claim God’s promises throughout the Bible. That is what they are there for.

  4. Connie Hunt August 25, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

    So proud of you, Haley!

  5. Susan Nations August 25, 2013 at 9:42 pm #


    I think God is going to use you to change women’s lives. Especially those that are young and struggling with similar issues as you. Your heart is so beautiful and your willingness to share it is an inspiration to all. May God continue to bless your journey. God is using you, and your story, this I KNOW! And I’m thankful! I’ve thought of you each time I’ve “moved more and eaten less” this week. These have been the words I have used over and over again on my journey. Now I’m adding, “More of you, Jesus and less of ME!” That’s thanks to your story. Many blessings to you, Haley and to you, Carmen for sharing so openly!

    Because of Him,


  6. Missy Melin August 25, 2013 at 11:10 pm #

    WOW!! Haley that is incredible!! So proud of you!!! Keep it up! It is definitely a long journey. I have been on mine for 16 months now and STILL going. I have lost 70 pounds and have become more fit and healthy. I am so much more active now than I have ever been, in the words of my 12 year old daughter “Mom, you used to never want to do anything and now you never stop”….LOL.
    I am praying for you…changing your eating habits is the hardest part but once you have, it will become somewhat easier, and you will notice you don’t like all the “junk” anymore. Jesus has been my strength and I pray everyday and so grateful for what He has helped me accomplish. There is a whole “world” of fit and healthy out here, I have learned a lot about eating right and fitness and LOVE trying new things….Once again, I am very proud you, this is NOT easy and you have started well :)

  7. Trish August 26, 2013 at 1:14 am #

    Way to go Haley!! I’m so excited for you and this amazing journey you are on. Thank you for opening yourself up to all of us. Love and prayers to you girlfriend!

  8. Mary August 26, 2013 at 1:29 am #

    You are such an inspiration for so many people that are fighting this same addiction ….You have a great. Support team and your mom is your biggest cheerLeader I only wish my daughter and I had this same relationship. You are so blessed., I pray for this everyday. Keep up the awesome work you will be the biggest winner ever…God is walking this walk with you, but I don’t need to tell you this you already know!!!! Praying for you

  9. Paula Eriksen August 26, 2013 at 11:43 am #

    So proud of you, Haley – with God’s help you can do it. Many blessings to you.

  10. Scottie Camacho August 26, 2013 at 12:00 pm #

    Way to go Haley! I am walking with you. Thank you for helping me do this. Your words give me encouragement.

  11. Wendy Donovan August 26, 2013 at 3:58 pm #

    It’s time to recalibrate my soul. I hope to see you at the finish line.

  12. April August 26, 2013 at 6:07 pm #

    Wow Haley it sounds like you are doing great! Continuing to pray for you! Your words are an inspiration to many to seek God over anything else. Thanks for the update and cannot wait to hear more about what God is teaching you!

  13. BERTHA THOMAS August 27, 2013 at 8:18 pm #

    Haley open my eyes so much that I am going to setp out on Faith. And joint her I believe with the help of the Lorb we can do all things.

  14. Karen August 28, 2013 at 7:35 pm #

    Haley – you go girl! I just know this process will change your life.

    The question about “what do I put ahead of God?” is something I have been struggling with. Some days it seems like I put everything ahead of God.

    I first heard about then challenge when your mom (shout out to Carmen!) was talking about it on the radio. There was a tickle in my brain, and up came Romans and off to my bible I went digging. Romans 7:19 “For I do not the good I want, but I do the evil I do not want.” I had never really understood that passage, and you, my dear, with your courage, have helped me see!

    And this can apply to so many things besides food – TV, computer games – the list can go on and on.

    I will pray for you my dear, and ask that you pray for me. I need some direction from God and I feel stuck.

    God bless you,


  15. Michael Leavitt August 29, 2013 at 3:54 pm #


    Let me introduce myself. My name is Michael. I am 35 years old, married to my college sweetheart, and the father of 3 beautiful children (3yo twin girls and an 11yo son). I just recently graduated from Liberty University Online and I am currently working on my M-Div from their seminary. I grew up in the church, and I am still active in a church right now.
    I too have an addiction, though mine is not to food. My addiction is porn and erotica (stories about pornographic situations). I have often discussed this issue with my wife and I tell her that the problem with porn is that you don’t have to be looking at it to be affected by it. For someone like me that has such a great memory of things I have read or looked at, the images are stored in my mind and can frequently pop up with out bidding. Because of this, it is a serious addiction that hinders me in my walk with God. It keeps me from knowing the plan that He has for me and how to accomplish it. It keeps me from serving in the church because I feel unworthy to serve.
    My wife shared your story with me and told me about her desire to do this challenge (she struggles with her weight too). I encouraged her to do it and told her it would be good for her. I actually read your blog post today and I realized that you were talking to me. While my addiction is not food, it is still something I crave more than God. Because of that, Satan is using it to destroy my family, and I don’t want to let that happen.
    I too will be joining this journey with you. I ask, no I beg, for your prayers as I take this journey one day at a time. I will certainly be praying for you.
    Thank you Haley, for being so vulnerable, open, and honest about your addiction and how it holds you back from experiencing all that God has for you. Your willingness to open up has certainly touched and encouraged me to embark on this journey as well.
    The following are 2 verses that I will be clinging to as I go through this journey: Hebrews 12:1-2 (NKJV) “Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, 2 looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”
    and also Romans 12:1-2 (HCSB) “Therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God; this is your spiritual worship.[a] 2 Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.”

    In His Strength,

  16. Velma Hunsucker September 7, 2013 at 6:27 am #

    You are quite an inspiration! I can relate to your struggle because I have struggled with my weight my entire life. I will be 40 years old in November! About eight years ago, I found out that my kidneys were failing. I knew that I was headed for dialyis, yet I didn’t do anything to change my unhealthy lifestyle. I kept waiting for God to heal me, like He was going to magically make me skinny and healthy. In January of last year, my body had suffered enough, and I had to have surgery and start dialysis. I regret that it took that to finally open my eyes. I guestioned God and why He didn’t heal me like He promised. What He taught me is that yes, He could have healed my kidneys, but if He had, I would not have changed anything. I would have continued the same unhealthy habits that I always fell back to. I finally started my journey to losing weight. A year and a half later I have lost 107 pounds. I have to get to a certain weight before I can be placed on a transplant list to receive a new kidney. I still have a long way to go, but I know that with God’s help and the prayers and encouragement of my family and friends, I will reach my goal. I have learned that I had to not only get healthy phsysically, but I have to get healthy mentally and spiritually. The journey has been hard, and I may sometimes slip and fall, but God is faithful, and He picks me up and helps me get back on the path that He has for me. I felt in my spirit to share a little of my story with you. You are are on the right path, and I pray that God will strengthen you on this journey.
    Love and Blessings,


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