haley. update!


My daughter, Haley, blogged a few months ago about her battle with weight. If you missed it, you can read it here. I was proud of the courage she showed, sharing her deeply personal struggle. I’ve heard from so many of you…wanting to know how she’s doing, or wanting to let her know that you struggle too. And some of you simply are wanting to root her on! Both of our hearts were tendered by your sweet words. Speaking for myself only, I know all about letting the scale determine how we feel about ourselves. A few pounds up … it can bum you out for the day. A few pounds down … you literally wanna skip to the closet to put your clothes on! It’s literally a roller coaster ride of insanity! All of our numbers and goals are different, but I’m pretty sure we can all relate to the feelings and emotions.

All this said, I’ve been SO proud of Haley! She’s down 20 pounds!! I asked Haley to give us an update. Here’s what she sent me:


For the last couple of weeks, I have been living in a weight loss haze, as I have decided to call it. I have been going through the motions of eating healthy, but feeling emotionally disconnected from the new lifestyle changes I’ve been making. I kept finding myself distracted and unfocused on my goal. One of the commitments I made to myself when I started this journey was to dive all in. I told myself that if this time was going to be the last time (meaning, my last time to truly lose the weight that I’ve battled for so long), I had to make weight loss something that influenced and impacted my entire lifestyle from the things I ate, to the things I read, to the things I thought and prayed about.

Somehow I had found myself going through the motions with an almost apathetic state of mind. I decided to have an intervention with myself. I was driving to work the next morning literally saying out loud, “Haley you have to get your head in this. You have been distracted, unfocused and unmotivated. If you don’t pull it together and get your head in it, this will be over before it even really begins.”

I thought I had taken care of my “state of mind” problem, but I was so wrong! My pep talk boosted me up for a couple of days, but eventually that faded.

Abbey & Haley

Abbey & Haley

Until a couple of days ago, I couldn’t figure out why the last two weeks have been so much harder than the first few.

But then I figure it out….

Throughout this journey, I have only been looking one week into the future. I didn’t want to overwhelm myself by the whole journey so I allowed myself to only worry about one week at a time. And it had been working, until two weeks ago. I was having some quiet time a couple of nights ago when it hit me. I had been trying to do this alone. I woke up that Monday morning and started my weekly journey without the ONE person that I absolutely need by my side: God. I didn’t realize it but I had stopped praying for guidance and support. I had stopped talking to God about my cravings and asking Him to help me crave Him more than food. I had stopped making this a spiritual journey and simply made it a physical one.

I was letting the distractions of everyday life consume me. I allowed my thoughts to be clouded and my attention to be altered. I started seeing success in my journey and I let my guard down. For me, this has always been a spiritual journey. I re-started the “Made to Crave” devotional on YouVersion. I’m on Day 1 again and I’m already seeing the impact of starting it over again. Lysa writes, “The process of getting healthy has to be about more than just losing weight and focusing on ourselves… It’s about recalibrating our souls so that we want to change for the right reasons. I’ve realized that a healthy eating plan can be one of the most significant spiritual journeys I’d ever dared to take with God.”

I am down 20 pounds so far. I am very happy I hadn’t started putting weight back on. That being said, I knew that if something didn’t change within me, I was on the brink of another failed attempt at losing my weight.

If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans,
even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.
Psalm 139: 9-10

19 Responses to “haley. update!”

  1. April October 15, 2013 at 7:28 pm #

    Way to go on your weight loss! So proud of you for keeping with it and finding your way back to the reason you started this journey in the first place. Continuing to pray for you!

  2. Marie Harper October 15, 2013 at 8:39 pm #

    Thank you for reminding this 70-year-old trying to lose 10 pounds that the answer lies with God. God bless you!

  3. Stacy October 15, 2013 at 8:40 pm #

    Great job!!

  4. Chari Yandek October 15, 2013 at 9:09 pm #

    Spirit lead me where my faith is without borders, let me walk upon the waters, wherever You would call me. Take me deeper then my feet could ever wander, and my faith will be made stronger in the presence of my Savior.

    These lyrics came to mind while reading your blog update—keep focusing on Him, don’t look down at your feet and sink back into old ways, it’s all too easy to do. Proud of the 20 lb. loss that is amazing! Keep it up and keep updating us!

  5. Paula October 15, 2013 at 9:54 pm #

    So proud of you, Haley – you are doing it with the help of the Lord!!! God Bless You.

  6. Beth Willis Miller October 15, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

    Love this, Haley! i had read Made To Crave before, but had not seen this You Version Made To Crave 21 day devotional until you mentioned it in your blog! i signed up today… looking forward to it :) here’s the link… https://www.bible.com/reading-plans/419-made-to-crave-21-day-challenge

  7. Missy October 15, 2013 at 10:11 pm #

    Thank you Haley! And way to go! Keep it up!
    I needed this …
    In my prayers,

  8. Julie October 16, 2013 at 12:18 am #

    Praying for you Haley and cheering for you. It is really a hard struggle I am right there with you struggling. But with Gods help we can do this and be overcomers through Christ.
    God bless you for sharing your journey with us.

  9. Laura Slaback October 16, 2013 at 1:35 am #

    Wow Haley!!! this has encouraged me! You have absolutely no idea!!! I love what you said. And it is sooo what I needed to hear! You go girl and keep up the information sharing!

  10. Bill October 16, 2013 at 10:56 am #

    You are an inspiration, Haley! So proud of you!!

  11. Cindy October 16, 2013 at 1:44 pm #

    Thank you for the update Haley! So proud of you! Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers, Girl!

  12. Dora Quimby October 16, 2013 at 4:35 pm #

    Hello Carmen and Haley. I have been a listener of Joy FM since March, 2013 and have often wondered what you looked like, what kind of people were you really, and golly gee would it even matter to either of you if a person like me would write a reply on your Blog or web page or whatever. But I am pleasantly surprised Carmen you are not only beautiful on the inside you are beautiful on the outside also. Especially so because you glow with God’s beauty.

    When I was looking at the various pictures of you and your co-workers with the children of Haiti…My heart cried out for those precious children. Also because my brother and his family for years have gotten together teams to go to Honduras to help them with schooling, building goals, and medical. My brother is a registered respiratory therapist so he headed up the medical end of it. Also because I use to support a little girl in Haiti but due to economy, health reasons, and other problems I had to stop doing that. While I was supporting her I so would hope that one day I would get to go to Haiti and meet her. But…now I will keep her in my prayers and wait to meet her in Heaven!!

    Haley, do not give up with the weight fight. I too struggle with the weight fight but mine is because of medical problems and it is a lot harder for me to loose weight because of being Diabetic and on insulin. Therefore, I know how very hard it is to fight the good fight against the weight problem. But…God will prevail and he will help you meet your goal as long as you keep your eyes on him and keep giving him all of the glory. God bless you both you are quite an inspiration!!
    Dora Quimby

    • carmen October 16, 2013 at 11:21 pm #

      Dora, THANK YOU so much for listening!! I’m always happy to hear from our listeners! Thank you for sharing a bit of your story, and thank you for encouraging Haley! Glad you are part of the JOY family.

  13. slick October 16, 2013 at 10:51 pm #

    Your level of maturity and your desire to win is unbeleivable for such a young adult. Kick the booty girl!!!!

  14. Holly October 22, 2013 at 3:23 pm #

    Hi Carmen & Haley,
    So proud of you, Haley!! Keep up the good work!! Carmen, I’m not sure if you got my card (my kids take the bus now and I am not near the radio in the AM as much as I used to be :( ). Hopefully you have tried the gift I sent! My passion is to help people look and feel better from the inside out AND achieve financial freedom. I have utmost faith that Haley can do this with God by her side and the support of family and friends. If she needs some extra encouragement and motivation, please have her contact me and it would be a blessing to be able to help her!! Anyone you know needing some encouragement or a jump start can visit my fb page. http://www.facebook.com/themilliondollarmakeover (you can remove that link if sharing info isn’t allowed)
    Love you guys!!

  15. Krista Johnson October 26, 2013 at 1:26 pm #

    What a great testimony! I lost over 100 lbs many years ago but had to understand that if getting in shape were all about the physical we would all be in shape. It is spiritual to and I truly believe that when we fix the inside the outside fixes itself :). The weight loss mentality is strict and rigid and sets you up to fail everytime, but when you let this be about God you cannot fail. Many continued prayers as you continue this journey. Remember that More God inside = less of me inside :)

  16. Michelle October 30, 2013 at 11:34 am #


    Hi! What was the name of the product that you said would be able to tell how many calories a person has ingested? You’all thought it would cost about $100.

    Thanks & Blessings,

  17. Katie Rogers November 5, 2013 at 1:12 pm #

    WAY TO GO HALEY!!!! KEEP IT UP! Don’t be afraid to look well into the future and KNOW that you will be there soon.

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